Mama Prayed Here – The Ridge Church

I love old churches. They remind me of old hymns – Amazing Grace2, Be Still My Soul3, Victory in Jesus3 – all the old ones we carry around in our hearts and sing when we are in the most need of a good blessing. When I think of The Ridge Church, it’s The Church in the Wildwood1.

Although The Ridge Church is little, it is not “brown”, but I think of this song when I remember the church itself. Something about the lyrics and the melody just brings this church to my mind.

The Ridge – a little church in the “wildwoods” out there in the middle of nowhere in South Carolina. I should know more about this church – you’d think I would have more memories of it. Rarely have I been there – only a handful of times when I went to family reunions all as an adult. But it is nonetheless a part of me, and I think of it as Mama’s church.

Now, having said all that, I do not know how much Mama went to church there when she was a child or if she went to church there at all. So, why write about the church and indicate it was the church where mama prayed? Well, because it’s in Lowndesville and that is where she was born and where she grew up; Lowndesville is where she came from; and The Ridge is where her ancestors probably would have worshipped, where many of them are now laid to rest. The cemetery by the church is filled with Mama’s ancestors. My grandparents are buried there along with a good number of aunts, uncles and cousins. The names on the tombstones attest to their lives in Lowndesville and Iva and Abbeville…..all remind me that they are my Mama’s people; and, yes, they are my people too resting in peace there giving me a sense of the familiar, of home…and of Mama.

When you search online you can find a good bit about Lowndesville and the surrounding area but very little about The Ridge Church itself. Like many small churches that are no longer active, very little of the church history seems to have been written down or memorialized. Lowndesville itself is a “small” town. When I say that, I mean it is way smaller than any one-horse town you’ve heard of. As far as I know, Mama’s daddy was a sharecropper at the turn of the century, at a time when things were going well for farmers in the south and cotton was still king…..right up until the Great Depression. Prior to the depression, the town seems to have been a relatively prosperous railroad town….prosperous enough that the Southern Railway could pay for a belfry with a brass bell for a little church out in the woods a few miles outside of town.

The congregation was established in 1839 and first met under a brush arbor. For those who’ve never heard of a brush arbor, it is an outdoor meeting place – open sided – made of wooden poles with tree limbs (brush) across the top, where people met to worship God and have church meetings…think tent revivals but much earlier and more rustic. In 1840, a log house was constructed with pews of hewn logs with wooden pegs5. It was known then as the Ridge Meeting House and in 1890 the present church was built. This would be the church that I have come to know and the one that Mama would have known.

Sad to say, the church itself has become somewhat easier to find nowadays because it has been desecrated by vandals and some errant bloggers have made it a bit famous by telling the world online that the church is haunted so every year around Halloween, miscreants try to find it to desecrate it some more. Fortunately, The Ridge is now owned and managed by the Smyrna Methodist Church in town, and a locked gate on the roadway going up to the church has made it more difficult to get to the old church. Additionally, the doors are now kept locked and the windows have all been boarded up. The congregation at Smyrna provides for the ongoing upkeep of the church and the cemetery – sadly that includes painting over the smut left by vandals. Smyrna Methodist also holds special services at The Ridge several times a year including a candlelight service at Christmas.

My personal memories of Lowndesville and The Ridge Church are much more recent. When we have attended family reunions in the past, we always go over to the Ridge Church after dinner on Sunday….and it is always a good visit. The church is quiet and peaceful and beautiful in its simplicity – just an old wooden church sitting in the trees back off a dirt road in the middle of nowhere.

When I think of it now, I think of my cousin playing the piano while we gather around to sing a few old hymns. I remember my sister standing right there by him singing away while pointing her cane sternly at any of her grandkids who might have even a single thought to misbehave. Before we leave the church, we gather around the pulpit to pray for blessings and safe travels for all the cousins as we head back home later in the evening. Perhaps we prayed standing very near the spot where Mama would have sat with her sisters as a young girl, prayed for her family and maybe prayed for her future and the children she might have….perhaps she prayed that they might someday make their way back to her home in Lowndesville and to The Ridge Church “Where Friends Meet”.

Notes:

  1. THE BROWNS – THE CHURCH IN THE WILDWOOD LYRICS
    1. The Church in the Wildwood – Wikipedia
  2. Amazing Grace > Lyrics | John Newton
  3. Be Still, My Soul > Lyrics | Katharina A. von Schlegel
  4. Victory in Jesus > Lyrics | Eugene M. Bartlett
  5. I did find a blog written by a lady (Donna Bratcher) who lives down in South Carolina and writes about old buildings and churches there. Her blog is called Faded and Forgotten History. She was kind enough to send me an article from an old newspaper that she had used as a source for her blog, so I do have that bit of information. (If you’d like to read her blog about The Ridge Church, you can find it here.)

Martha and Mary (in me)

It’s Christmas and time to share one of my favorite Christmas stories from the Bible at Luke 10:38-42. You know the one about the two sisters, Mary and Martha. Jesus came to dinner and Martha was stressed because she was doing all the work and Mary was sitting by Jesus listening to him as he spoke to the disciples and that made Martha even more stressed? Right?

Not a Christmas story, you say? Well, let’s call my story an application rather than a strict interpretation.

So, Martha is stressed, and she goes to Jesus to “woe-is-me” a little bit and she asks that he intervene and give Mary a good talking to. After all, wouldn’t he agree that Mary should be helping?

Now, when I was young and mama said my name twice in a row like that, it either meant that I had done something wrong for which I was about to be punished, or maybe I looked too forlorn for words, and she was just gonna give me a big hug. I think that’s what Jesus was gonna do – give Martha a great big hug to help her settle down a bit and remember that she was talking to someone who loved her dearly but who wasn’t going to be there with her forever. I’m not sure that’s what Martha was expecting him to do though.

I can certainly understand all her stress. After all, it is Christmas, and there is so much to do. Why, if there’s to be any kind of joy when Christmas Day gets here, someone has got to get cracking and get things done. There are plans to be made, presents to buy, cakes and cookies to bake, and at some point, someone is going to have to get that tree up and decorated. Why, if I had started all this back in October when the Walmart starts putting out their Christmas decorations, I’d still not have time to get everything done. My “inner” Martha is totally rolling now and I am pretty anxious, but I can do this. I just need some lists (I’m big on making lists) – task lists, budgets, grocery lists, present lists – why just for cookies & cakes alone, we need flour, sugar – regular and powdered, cinnamon, nutmeg, cloves, ginger….lots of spices. And there’s presents. What do the children want this year? I just don’t have a clue – I’m not sure socks and hats are going to be at the top of their lists although these things would always be needed and appreciated, I’m sure. The lists are endless and money shorely doesn’t grow on trees, now does it? How will I ever get it all done? And, where’s that Mary when I need her?

Only one thing? The good portion? The love and joy part? The family part? The salvation part? The part that cannot be taken away from me? Let me think about this.

About those decorations that need to go up. Come to think of it, how pretty the tree looks this year even without all the ornaments. I remember when we made those little four-pointed stars out of Q-Tip’s and yarn? The babies’ hands were so small, and they had so much trouble getting those Q-Tips to stay together long enough to start winding the yarn all around. I had to hot glue the Q-Tips together so the yarn could even begin to go on. And there’s this wooden cross made of olive wood that we bought in that little wood-working shop over in Bethlehem right down the street from the Church of the Nativity where Jesus was born. Oh, there’s that one ornament left over from the year I decided the balls were boring so I’d bling them up with some glue and glitter – we made such a mess, had glitter all over the place – three months later, I was still sweeping that stuff out of the cracks and crevices in the kitchen. Those ornaments are all broken now except for this last one. That must have been forty or more years ago. My baby girl is all grown up now – no more help with blinging out the ornaments.

Hey, here comes the neighborhood Christmas parade…..”Merry Christmas”, “Merry Christmas”, they all call out as they pass me standing there by the side of the road. Oh my! How did they ever get all those packages up on top of that golf cart like that? And the twinkling lights! And there’s the old grinch bringing up the rear throwing out candy to the kids trailing along behind. What fun! “Goodbye…Merry Christmas!”

It’s so cold out here tonight but the sky is so clear, and the stars are coming out. One of those stars would be the very one that the Wise Men followed to see the new king. There are so many out tonight, which star could it be? In all creation, in all those millions of stars out there, there was just one that led them to the Lord…..just one child born that night to save us all.

The good portion……Mary chose the good portion……and it’s Christmas.

I let the joy and peace wrap around me like mama’s hug so many years ago. I remember….our children won’t always be children, our memories won’t always be sure, the music won’t always be playing in the background, our friends won’t always be close by, our parents won’t always be here with us……time will not wait for us to get it all done before we find a moment to stop and feel the wonder of it all….to consider the “good portion”.

Martha and Mary. A time for Martha. A time for Mary.